Second: A much smaller percentage of the people develop their wishes into desires. These are estimated at 10%.
Third: A still smaller percentage of the people develop their wishes and desires into hopes. These are estimated at 8%.
Fourth: A still smaller percentage of the people step their mind-power up to where it becomes belief. These are estimated at 6%.
Fifth: And yet a very much smaller percentage of the people crystallize wishes, desires and hopes into belief, and then into burning desire, and finally faith. This percentage is estimated at 4%.
Sixth: And last, a very small percentage of the people take the last two steps, putting their faith into action by (1) planning and (2) acting to carry out their plans. This percentage is estimated at only 2%!
”The outstanding leaders in every walk of life are the ones in the sixth
group. They recognize the power of their own minds, take possession of that
power and direct it to whatever ends they choose. To these people the word
“impossible” has no meaning. To them, everything they want or need is possible–
they manage to get it. The only trait which differentiates them from most of
the others who accept failure as their lot, is that they recognize and use
their mind-power for the attainment of the circumstances and things they
want while the others do not.”
As a tribute to my favorite holiday, I’m sending along some thoughts on the importance and power of living in a state of gratitude, of thankfulness EVERY day…not just on the fourth Thursday of November.
“Grace isn’t a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal. It’s a way to live.” ~Jackie Windspear, author
“Sometimes we get so caught up in the future, we forget to take pleasure in what we have. We become so obsessed with ‘I want, I want, I want’, there is no room left to notice that we are already standing neck-deep in grace.” ~ Carolyn Hobbs, therapist, writer, teacher
“Appreciation can make a day, even change your life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” ~ Margaret Cousins, author
“Gratitude is the most exquisite form of courtesy.” ~ Jacques Maritain, philosopher
“It’s a sign of mediocrity when you demonstrate gratitude with moderation.” ~ Roberto Benigni, actor & director
“You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing, and grace before I dip the pen in the ink.” ~ G.K. Chesterton, writer
There are myriad things for which we can be grateful–and we need to BE grateful before we can be entrusted with more. Look at all you have now…my gosh! Every day I am grateful for the miracle of being able to feed myself, to speak, to read, sing, and walk. I am SO grateful that I can contribute to the Salvation Army or Food Bank.!
Above all, I am deeply grateful for the loving people in my life: for you, for my friends and family, for my sons and their spouses, for my adorable little dog (who can always make me laugh on my worst days!), and for all the unknown people whose efforts and caring make my life so full.
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” ~Marcel Proust, writer
Grateful For You,
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.
Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.
And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.–Steve Jobs
I don’t know who came up with this, but I remember seeing it a few years ago. Such simple wisdom often bears repeating…
The tribal wisdom of the Dakota Indians, passed on from generation to generation, says that,
“When you discover that you are riding a dead horse, the best strategy is to dismount.”
However, we have all been witness to “more advanced strategies” often employed for dealing with “dead horses”. We may have even used some of these ourselves, in our business, or in our personal lives. See which ones you recognize.
These “dead horse strategies” include:
1. Buying a stronger whip, and keep “beating a dead horse”.
2. Changing riders.
3. Appointing a committee to study the horse.
4. Arranging to visit other businesses/countries to see how other businesses/cultures ride dead horses.
5. Lowering the standards so that dead horses can be included
6. Reclassifying the dead horse as living-impaired.
7. Hiring outside contractors to ride the dead horse.
8. Harnessing several dead horses together to increase speed (my personal favorite!)
9. Providing additional funding and/or training to increase dead horse’s performance.
10. Doing a productivity study to see if lighter riders would improve the dead horse’s performance.
11. Declaring that as the dead horse does not have to be fed, it is less costly, carries lower overhead and therefore contributes substantially more to the bottom line than do some other horses.
12. Rewriting the expected performance requirements for all horses.
And of course….
13. Promoting the dead horse to a supervisory position.
SO, take a look at all areas of your business AND your life, and see what your dead horses are. Once discovered, by all means, disengage yourself from it–and see how your progress improves!
Lynnea (horse lover and former horse owner)
Someone once said – “There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, have compassion for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.”
Everyone falls, fails, gets hurt, makes mistakes, and is treated badly. No one goes through life unscathed, so why should you? Why should I? One of the greatest gifts to yourself to to get over the notion that life SHOULD be easy (who said so?) and find those places where you are fed, honored, and safe. Then express gratitude every day for what you have (my mantra is “if you can still feed yourself and you’re not in jail, then you have two big things to be grateful for”). Start now. Life’s too short to live it half way, and a lousy attitude only makes your life miserable…Too bad, when there are choices to live differently.
Ask “active questions”—based on doing, setting, achieving, etc. , questions focused on what you CAN DO. For example:“Did you do your best to increase your own engagement in this company?”“What did I do today to increase my happiness?”“Did I do my best to increase my happiness?”
“What did I do…To increase my happiness?To increase my engagement in this (process, project, company, etc.)?To find meaning?To be of service?To build positive relationships with the important people in my life?To remember the people I love?Etc…”
- Ask yourself (and/or the other person–employee, for example) every day, or the end of each meeting
- Write these down as goals…share them with others.
- Ask your chosen questions every day…make them a habit (sharing with others will help this process)
- Be fully accountable and honest with yourself.
Why are these questions and growth in these areas important? Because they break us out of the inertia of living in a reactionary mode. They keep us focused on what really matters. They move us from “victim mode” to “victor mode”. They can cause shifts that make us more positively productive and satisfied. They can make us more in love with what we do, and with who we are. They open doors in our thinking to having more meaning in our lives.And, do you have to love what you do, and do what’s meaningful in order to be highly successful? Studies show that people at the top of their game, say “Yes”! So, creating meaning by being more fully engaged and happier, can also make you more successful.Wow–living with more meaning, happiness and success! Isn’t that what we all want? So, I challenge you today to make a set of of 3 questions that, when positively addressed, can make your business and your life richer. Choose some of the questions above, or create your own, about what you can DO to change your personal engagement with life. Then ask yourself every day for 30 days (yes, another 30 day challenge!) and see how your happiness, business, and overall meaning start to bloom.Here’s to your abundance!Lynnea
Yes, vision is a hugely important element, yet often glossed over or ignored. This “vision gap” explains why some people who for 10- 15 years have been on a steady growth path, suddenly become bored.
Spend the next week mulling over where you want to be in 18 to 24 months. Write things down as they come to you, or do a “brain dump” or a “heart storm” (as opposed to a brain storm) session alone or with your “nearest and dearest”. Write in a journal or carry index cards for the whole time.
Here are the rules: No edits allowed and no trying to answer the “how” questions. Just let it flow, and jot down your ideas. Within a week, you will have plenty of inspiration and ideas… not only a nice beginning to your new map, but the proper sequence of “Ready, aim fire!” will be put in place.
An Exercise in Changing Yourself ~
By Marshall Goldsmith*
When I first began my career as an executive educator, I challenged my clients to pick one to three behavior patterns for personal improvement. Now I realize that three patterns were too many.
The problem was not a lack of motivation or intelligence — the problem was that they were just too busy. I teach my clients now to pick the one behavior pattern for personal change that will make the biggest difference, and to focus on that. If we pick the right area to change and actually do so, it will almost always influence other aspects of our relationships with people. For example, more effective listening will lead to being more successful in building teamwork, increasing customer satisfaction, and treating people with respect.
A Wonderful Exercise
My friend Nathaniel Branden is a psychologist and the author of about 20 books. He has a wonderful exercise that helps people isolate the pattern that makes the most sense to change, because it helps people figure out the benefits of change. This is how he helps people decide whether change is worth it: Five to eight people sit around a table, and each person selects one practice to change. One person begins the exercise by saying: “When I get better at…” and completes the sentence by mentioning one benefit that will accompany this change. For example, one person may say: “When I get better at being open to differing opinions, I will hear more great ideas.”
After everyone has had a chance to discuss their specific behavior and the first benefit, the cycle begins again. Now each person mentions a second benefit that may result from changing the same behavior, then a third, continuing usually for six to eight rounds. Finally, participants discuss what they have learned and their reactions to the exercise.
When Branden first explained this exercise to me, I was polite, but skeptical. I couldn’t see the value of simply repeating the potential benefits of change over and over. My skepticism quickly went away when I saw the process work.
Moved to Tears
Nathaniel and I were facilitators at a large conference that included many well-known leaders from corporations, nonprofits, the government, and the military. The man sitting next to me was a high-ranking military leader directly responsible for thousands of troops. He also was extremely judgmental and seemed to be proud of it. For example, when conference participants discussed the topic of character, he said: “I respect people with real character — and organizations, like mine, with real values. I don’t believe in this situational crap!”
When we began Nathaniel’s exercise, our military friend chose: “When I become less judgmental…” as his behavior to change. I was skeptical about his sincerity and thought his participation in the exercise would be interesting to observe. True to my expectations, the first time around he coughed and grunted a sarcastic comment rather than talk about a real benefit. The second time around he was even more cynical. Then something changed. When he described a third potential benefit, he stopped being sarcastic. Several rounds later, he had tears in his eyes, and said: “When I become less judgmental, maybe my children will speak to me again.”
Since that day, I have conducted this exercise with several thousand people. Many start with benefits that are “corporately correct,” such as: “This change will help my company make more money,” and finally end with benefits that are more human, such as: “This change will make me a better person.” I will never forget one hard-driving executive who chose: “When I get better at letting go” as the behavior he should work on. His first benefit was that his direct reports would take more responsibility. His final benefit was that he would probably live to celebrate his 60th birthday.
Try It for Yourself
Now it’s your turn to pick a behavior pattern that you may want to change. Complete the sentence: “When I get better at…” over and over again. Listen closely as you recite potential benefits. You will be amazed at how quickly you can determine whether this change is worth it for you. (Originally published by Harvard Business Review.)
*Dr. Marshall Goldsmith has authored 28 books including What Got You Here Won’t Get You There – a New York Times best-seller, Wall Street Journal #1 business book and Harold Longman Award winner for Business Book of the Year.